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I'd think being bad at reading people is exactly the reason why one would want to nope out of any relationship with a high-drama person. At least this is how it works for me. If you're bad at something, why get into a situation where your wellbeing may depend on being good at it?
You'd perhaps not have a benchmark to judge them against, and might be strung along by their interest in you.
Which is why, as a broad generality, I think (male) autists are prone to falling into the trap of a relationship with a cluster B woman. If they don't have a good benchmark to judge against (and perhaps have a bad benchmark like "women are crazy," which leads to "this woman is acting crazy, that's nothing unusual because all women are like that"), then they're less likely to see all the red flags for what the flags really are. They could be naive about other people's motivations (hence the quokka insult) and fail to recognize malicious or destructively selfish motivations under the woman's expressed interest in them.
As for why they might be prone to be targeted, they are likely presenting some behaviors (appearance of emotional stability, internal locus of control, unwillingness to go with the crowd, etc.) that histrionic/borderline types find attractive (see hysterical bonding proposed by McWilliams), and it's only later when the incompatibility in all these traits between the two people causes it all to end in tears.
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