The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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n=1 and those two factors definitely play their parts, but also - those types of woman are usually much less shy of showing direct, explicit interest in a guy and have no qualms about adapting their presentation to suit their interests (autistics tend to entirely miss the "traditional" green flags, and thus have no experience with courtship), and generally do most of the work of forming an attachment for him. The dreaded "I can fix her" impulse is also super effective against autistic-type mons, "reasonable" and "grounded" as they are (how hard can it be, really?). From the inside it definitely feels like a match made in heaven until the downsides slowly become apparent.
t. stepped on a landmine
A match made in heaven (hell). The naive and vulnerable vs the exploiter who can be most effective against such individuals.
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