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Um, Im not? This is largely in their interests. Black mens variation of masculinity does have an element of clear toxicity, driven by historical, societal circumstances, and governmental policy (and maybe we'll say here that HBD might be playing a role, but I'd like to focus on what we can control here). This clearly doesn't make them very attractive mates, a la them being more likely to be single. It actively damages their relationships.
Women find both masculine and "feminine" qualities attractive in men. Again, no ones arguing against being manly, I'm merely arguing for a slight tweak in masculinity to include some of these softer elements, that would aid in keeping a mate in the long term. If you insist on a slightly manlier variation of this, the comic-book hero Superman fits the bill fairly well.
We shouldnt be overstating womens preference for masculinity. Yes, women are looking for elements of masculinity when selecting mates, but the man in questions cant be too masculine, because that risks turning the strength aggression on her and the children.
I actually stand corrected! Excellent. For the record I actually forgot about Usher and RnB black men existed for a second (& sadly, we don't see them that much in the mainstream anymore). I'd like to see more!
This is counter-productive in almost all cases. A fit in shape person is gonna give a fat-ass an proper ass-whooping 99% of the time. Size matters to a point, but there is a distinction between sumo wrestler 200lbs, & Brock Lesnar 200lbs. But sure, inner city violence incentivizes masculint behaviour, fair enough. Solution? Crack down & lock them up.
Again, this is a false dichotomy. The goal is for our sweet guy to have both traits, that's basically the whole point of this post. I care for the black community, and I'd like to see them succeed. Having children "raised" by pookey and ray ray is counter productive to this end goal. Do I need emphasize that women aren't only attracted to just the hyper-manly health inspector?
On the decreasing likelihood of you not actually being a sufficiently advanced troll, thanks a lot. This is the best laugh I've had all week.
Again, on the off chance that you're not actually a troll, you do understand what you sound like, right? You sound like someone who has never actually talked or interacted with human beings enough. I'm serious. This and your previous argument about how "we should get men decent paying jobs". Yes, no shit. But shit in one hand and wish in the other and see which one fills up first.
I don't want to tar men of system or wonks with the same brush but yes, of course the issues you're talking about are obvious. Your fixes, assuming they are even remotely feasible, would do just as much if not more damage. Go on, I'm waiting to see how you can fix black families - and while you're at it, fix income inequality, the prison-profit pipeline, black male incarceration, gang culture and schooling.
Inner city violence doesn't incentivize masculine behavior. Humans do. Humans. Ugly, brutish, cruel, self-interested humans. Black male culture valorizes strength, violence, and in the parlance of their culture, fucking a lot of bitches. Can you offer them anything close to this that satisfies those drives? And don't say Heinlein's bug war, jokingly or not. Let's not pretend those drives aren't shared by a lot of men. Although the vast amount of chemicals in modern food, water, and testicles might have done their part in damaging those drives, it's still up against thousands of years of men succeeding by caving in other men's skulls with rocks and dragging women to caves by their hair. Black men have found a solution that works for their sexual success. Sexual success became divorced from long term stable pair bonding a long time ago, it was called women's liberation and birth control, and as soon as that happened everything else falls into place. And those two genies are never going back in the bottle outside of the business end of a jackboot, so good luck trying.
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