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Culture War Roundup for the week of April 27, 2026

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Depends if the women in question are reading Aria Shrecker? (They should be, she's great)

The best age of man to target is probably younger than you think. I think you should focus your attention on men in their mid twenties. In my poll, the average age of men in relationships was 31, two years older than the single men, but they met their wives/girlfriends at a median age of 25. I recommend any woman 27 and younger to aim for people in their mid twenties. They are probably not thinking about marriage yet but they will be after a couple of years. And they haven’t hit their peak sexual market value yet so you can buy a great guy at a discount.

My view is that (1) don't cohabit - free milk and the cow rule (2) if he's not willing to entertain the idea of marriage after a couple of years, move on. If women are on the biological clock, beauty and fertility have a shelf life, and you do want marriage and children, don't waste time on a guy who is not ready to settle down but thinks he has until he's forty to decide if he does want a missus.

I think if women were a lot pickier than they are, there would be more marriage and children. That might be tough on the guys who think "hey, I'm only thirty, I'm in my prime, I want to play the field and not get tied down, men are naturally promiscuous that's just evo-psych" but they can't have that and complain that women are promiscuous and flighty if they're sleeping with men and not marrying them. If you want that traditional wife (or husband), you have to abide by traditional rules.

It's a coordination problem. While an individual woman can decide that she wants to e.g. get married before having sex, the guy she wants probably won't be willing to go with that, and so will find another girlfriend. If she's super hot she might be able to drive a harder bargain, but it would still probably entail going for a less eligible guy than she would otherwise be able to get (in which case 'pickiness' would work against her goals).

That's why (relative) sexual conservatism really only works within religious subcultures. In those groups, everyone is on the same page about what is expected.

Aria has a planned post called 'Dump early, dump often' which I expect would be her way around this conundrum.

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