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That just seems straightforwardly true to me. If you add enough value to a company, you can get away with being direct and outspoken (and a great deal worse). That's just a true factual statement.
By the same token, you'll sometimes see girls with lines in their Tinder bio like "if you're a Tory, swipe left" or whatever. But in terms of revealed preferences, I think the number of women who would refuse to date a man whom they otherwise found highly attractive solely because he held conservative opinions is vanishingly small.
I think this depends on the woman's social circle and what kind of behavior "conservative opinions" entail. If you have enough queer friends then you just can't be in a long-lasting relationship with someone with anti-LGBT views, for example - something's got to give.
True – and I suspect the population of heterosexual women who would be more than willing to cast aside their assorted gay best friends for the sake of a committed relationship with a smart man with a lucrative profession would be significantly higher than you might think, and certainly higher than one would naïvely expect based on how many women put "swipe left if you're a Tory" or similar in their tinder bios.
I'm sure it helps that that the venn diagram circles for smart men with a lucrative profession looking for a committed relationship and the one for men with such strong anti-gay opinion that they'd force or otherwise cause their girlfriend to break off their friendship with her gay friends likely have so little overlap they might as well be completely separate circles.
I'm not really sure if that's true. There are probably lots of devout Christian men in red states who are making significantly more than the national median and who wouldn't tolerate their girlfriends/wives being friends with gay men.
This some ignorance right here. Just straight up ignorant bigotry.
My folks are super conservative, super religious. They were missionaries for years, my dad has been a lay preacher for longer than I've been alive, and was at Jan 6. Mom's best friend is gay, has been since before she met dad. He stayed in our home for a year or so back in the day getting back on his feet.
My dad thinks old guy is going to hell, so does mom for that matter. Doesn't make him not her best friend. You're projecting your own hatred onto people you don't know.
I think you're taking this far more personally than it was intended.
I think you've gotten comfortable in an atheistic space being specifically bigoted against a group you have virtually no experience with. You have fantasies of what bad people they must be. Conspiracy theories. Imagined hatreds and evil intents.
But it's all just you.
Sure, whatever bro.
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