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Always a pleasure, Sloot. Did you just assume the positive feedback beforehand? Or lucked into it?
Obviously I assumed the feedback would be positive before initiating, based on reading her vibes, prior experiences with the general female penchant for being sexually submissive, the prior experience with the girl who literally asked for it, and general background knowledge.
Why would I do something (anything in general) if I assumed the feedback would be negative or the EV suboptimal? If I go up for a layup in pickup basketball (even if I haven't tried that exact type of layup against that particular team before), it's because I believe that's the highest EV play at the time, not because I think I'll airball it to start a fast break for the other team.
As I have written here before, I think your takes are often insightful, if bitter pills. I also think your generalizations are probably too wide and confined to a subset of hot/mildly damaged women (all of us, men and women, are at least mildly damaged) and that your ability to calibrate/"read the vibes" isn't a particularly transferable skill. I also think what she wants and what is good (healthy if you prefer) for her (to say nothing of what is good for me/a man) are often not the same. In other words maybe in her secret garden she has a nice rape fantasy planted; that doesn't mean that I do, or that I'm interested at all in accommodating her.
I've been married 20+ years, I'm under no illusion that women are necessarily wonderful, but I'm also convinced that we're fundamentally different (male and female) well beyond simply plumbing, and that one aspect of our role as men is to be protective. I wouldn't want to indulge some girl's getting off on her own self-loathing any more than I'd want her exacerbating, for sexual kicks, my own (to what degree any self-loathing remains after 50 years of systematically eradicating it).
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