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In Australia this is pretty much how it goes now. If you have a pre-established relationship with the children (of several years say) then you are presumed to have assumed parenting responsibilities and need to pay child support in the event of a divorce.
The 'needs of the child' are said to out way the injustice done to the 'father'. Why the state can't provide for the needs of the child and that only 'daddy's money' can spiritually succor the child even though the cucked man wants no relationship with them is somehow left unsaid.
So you get scenarios where a man assumes that his wife/partner has been faithful, happily signs his name on the birth certificate, develops a relationship with 'his' child and then finds out 5 years later that he's been cucked by her ex-boyfriend Chad. He is horrified at the betrayal, divorces his wife and wants to cut off contact with Chad's biological kids. The Family Court comes after him with the full force of the law and is willing to throw him in 'debtors prison with extra steps'. He says go after Chad for the cash. The court says you have assumed the role of father and have signed the birth certificate so pay up.
I'd like to see mandatory genetic testing at birth. There are other medical benefits such as identifying susceptibility to genetic diseases early as well as the 'needs of the child' in knowing with certainty who their bio-parents are. Somehow the courts don't seem that the 'needs of the child' are important in these other areas.
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