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Just as women demanded that traditionally male privileges be redistributed fairly; men must demand that traditionally female privileges be redistributed fairly.
I was unfortunately born with the worms in by brain that bite me if I eg Cry Because I Broke A Bone Or A Direct Relative Fucking Died on account of that is bitch(read: female) behavior; I can force down the impulse to judge for other men but I can't give myself the same grace.
Men deserve the right to get gassed up by other men because they have that shit on, they deserve the right to be a pillow prince, they deserve the right to stay home and raise the children and make the thirst trap untrad-husband tiktok shorts if they want to, they deserve the right to be approached by women who are attracted to them in a bashful way; and all the other female privileges.
This will only happen when
A: a large enough population of men get together and forcefully demand these things, and then act as through they have already had their demands met, and
B: Men (me) stop being such absolute pieces of shit to those among us who fail to live up to the retarded masculine ideal you didn't sign up for.
But the asymmetry of male vs female dynamics comes from:
These things are psychologically hard-wired, not cultural. The only way to make a society where the women and men have symmetrical dynamics is social repression or genetic engineering. The feminist movement, and its outcomes, moved us closer to a state of nature.
The "men's feminist movement" is just Patriarchy.
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