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The older women end up policing the young men too, but they don't need to try hard if the young women are already bought-in to the system. All young men want to play the field, few are capable of actually doing so. Historically, most men are satisfied with marrying while young into an exclusive monogamous relationship if it means sacrificing the ability to play a field that they probably would have failed at anyway. If the young women are willing to settle down early, expect the men to line up to make themselves eligible bachelors.
Nobody expects the older bachelors to remain virgins. Some will probably seek out prostitutes, yes, but men will do that no matter what unless they feel guilt or shame from the constraints of religion or culture. From a TFR perspective, it doesn't matter much if the young husband is 20 or 35. There will be substantial competition for eligible bachelorettes. Some of the teen boys will have to wait until they are 35 to be seen as better suitors, but the onus is on the teen boys to improve themselves quickly to avoid waiting too long, and men generally respond well to that kind of incentive.
As for the womanizers abandoning pregnant young mothers, we already come down pretty hard on that with child support. Part of young women's education will be the emphasis on no sex until marriage, as that is her primary leverage during courtship. Once married, a woman's rights to shared marital assets and income is much more secure, as it already is today.
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