The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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I can relate with most of the things you've said. I'm an introvert with social anxiety that has prevented me from being more social throughout my life. I've been working on it in the past year or so, but I'm still far away from being described as "social". Aside from the fact that not having some sort of support system you can rely on if things go bad is objectively not good, I think you should reflect on whether you've successfully managed to distract yourself from your shortcomings in social life. For me, that's definitely the case. I'm a natural workaholic. I derive value from work, winning games. So it's very easy to get distracted - find a goal, an idea to pursue, a new game to play and I can sit inside for weeks on end being obsessed. I can do this for years. But the brief moments when I run out of things to do are brutal. I no longer have distractions to keep my mind from reflecting. I start feeling like something is wrong in my life. If that sounds familiar, then I think you gotta start reflecting on your life and pinpoint what's wrong. If not, perhaps you're just a hermit and that's okay. I know I'm not, so I gotta make change or I will be looking back at my life with regret and I don't want that. Even though it's so comfortable to be in your own little world in the moment
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