The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Thank you for the cheerful assessment, and is it any wonder I don't like people?
When I was a kid, my friends were willow trees. In the years since, I have never seen any reason to prefer a human to a tree.
I can definitely say that at school I was not bullied or socially rejected. I did hang out with other kids, just that I never wanted to do this by choice as my first option. I was more content on my own.
"You're a loser because nobody likes you so you have to pretend you don't care about it" is not true in my case. I don't feel all this need for connection and intimacy that, apparently, I should be feeling according to the received wisdom. But I don't feel this need or lack.
Now, you are probably perfectly correct that my wiring is all messed-up and I'm nuts and the rest of it, but I just find it unusual that surely there must be more people, even if only a handful, out there who are solitary and happy to be that way and not wishing they had all this normal life?
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