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Culture War Roundup for the week of May 18, 2026

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I think in your scenario you're conflating promiscuity (willingness to engage in sex with multiple partners, even multiple partners who are strangers or are relative strangers) and being DTF one's significant other. In my experience (sudden screech of mic feedback) once in a committed relationship, women are DTF almost as much as men, if not moreso (in marriage I'd say moreso, though YMMV, and it's true I married well past my excruciatingly lustful late teens and twenties.)

Now times may have a' changed, it's true, I guess, at least one reads that no one's having sex anymore. They say that about Japan as well but I am convinced that's just bad data.

Re. Japan, I think it's an herbivore male problem**. Japanese women don't have nearly the negative attitude western women do, outside of a few female Westaboos who are on Twitter too much. The majority of the current crop of guys are too passive about their work, life plan, physical fitness, friend group, dating life. Women want a guy with a plan, or at least some charisma. I work with a bunch of Japanese guys in their mid 30s and they are either married and mildly depressed or unmarried and obsessed with video games. There are a few exceptions; a couple guys dress sharp, play casual sports, and (I'm guessing) probably have an active love life. But most seem either to be "lying flat" or to be trapped in a marriage with a woman who has fully metamorphosed into a ママ instead of a wife.

** Runner up: extremely strong pressure and modeling of "sexless mother" by peers and the older generation. "We have kids, we don't do that anymore. Grow up."

I guess, at least one reads that no one's having sex anymore.

My understanding is that this is driven by fewer people being coupled up, not by couples having less sex.

I'm not conflating them, I'm saying they are likely strongly correlated.

I didn't realize when responding how long the discussion was. Apparently no one else had my impression, in any case.