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Yes, but unlike trans stuff, we were generally very very careful about allowing kids to do such things. We require kids to go to school until at least 16. We preach against those bad decisions. We put up all kinds of roadblocks where possible. We do not allow let alone celebrate it. We do not tell kids who want to be teen mothers “hey, look at how cool teenage single mothers are! Here’s how you get pregnant! And a whole week or month dedicated to making sure all of my friends think teenage mothers are super cool and brave.” We don’t do that for dropping out of school. The culture has made dropping out of school synonymous with “Loser”. It’s not okay and not something, in most cases, that kids think is cool.
With trans stuff, we kinda do the opposite. We celebrate the bravery of those who do it. We kinda make it cool, and make sure that people around them think it’s cool. We give kids a roadmap to actually doing that stuff, and make it as easy as possible— including removing obstacles to doing it. The parents who say “no” or “not yet” are threatened, the doctors are coached to never ever imply that this kid isn’t right about who they are and what they want. Hormones are given out to kids who need parental permission to go on a field trip to the history museum.
I get that naturally trans kids probably exist. I just don’t think going whole hog into a pathway that will have the kid sterilized before he hits puberty makes sense. At 17-18 I think it’s much more reasonable as the personal choice of someone who I might disagree with but is capable of making that choice. At 12-13, they have no idea what being an adult is like or what will matter to them at 30 or 40 or 80.
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