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I don't see it as being about capital L legitimacy or anything like that, more about how to engage in normal observations about stuff like how a kid takes after their parents. Nobody particularly cares whether a kid has one parent's nose or whatever (apart from their parents, obviously), but those aspects still represent and embody small L lineage and legitimacy.
With straight parents the natural assumption is that they are the biological parents and so there's no question to ask, and explicitly asking who the "real" parent is would be liable to start a fight. With a gay couple it's a natural assumption that at least one of them isn't the biological parent for obvious reasons, and as such it's natural to be curious which one is. But it's usually rude to ask, hence OP's question of just how rude it would be.
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