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Well, when the guy is writing how he really wants Melania Trump to break her marriage vows so he can prove how the sexual revolution cheated young men, are you surprised women would avoid romance with that attitude? "I want women to be cheating bitches to prove I am right when I say they are all cheating bitches"? Would you tie yourself to a guy who resents that his sexual orientation makes him want to fuck you, when he hates everything about you and wishes he could just hide you in a box until he wants sex then put you back in that box afterwards?
Young men in the 60s and 70s (and let's be frank, forever) wanted sex without commitment. No getting tied down with the old ball-and-chain and a house full of kids, but being able to get sex from your girlfriend of the moment - or even as many girls as you could get! - was the dream. Young men want variety and novelty and the status victory of being able to get hot chicks at the drop of a hat, and persuading women that this was liberation for them (and let's be fair, a lot of women did talk themselves into this being liberation, to be able to approach sex the same way men did, with no fears around unwanted pregnancy, or being judged for being sexually experienced outside of marriage), so both sexes wanted the revolution.
But young men (and young women) become old men and women, and experience leads to finding out that the dream often is a dream and reality is quite different to what you hoped would happen.
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