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Oh cool, this is the second time I've had interpersonal experience of a discussion topic. Last one was my Eskimo brother on two degrees of separation, and now I'm down to one degree of separation. I've never been on the EA forums or kept up with their membership, but I knew Owen IRL decades ago. We were in the same ieado club, lol.
Suffice to say, I'm a lot more convinced of the "Autistic nerd thinks he's being friendly and helpful by offering his guest room, proceeds to get lied about by clout-chasers" narrative than the "Sex-pest" narrative.
Again, I don't think this is a case of "lied about by clout-chasers". He seems to have admitted that things happened as the bare account of it had it, but interpreted it in a different way (i.e. 'we were friends and I was experimenting with radical truthfulness so things like saying I was going to jerk off did happen') and that's something that makes idiot normies like me go "Why the fuck did you think telling an acquaintance that you were going to jerk off after she walked in the door was a good idea????"
I do think that is "autistic nerd" but it's also "Man, you really did need lessons in social interaction as to what is Too Much Information".
Perhaps a better way to describe it is "technically true statements written about by clout chasers in a manner that causes reasonable people to infer totally false conclusions".
For example, here's one totally false conclusion drawn by someone I think you would agree is a fairly intelligent person drawing reasonable inferences from the facts presented:
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