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Culture War Roundup for the week of February 20, 2023

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and that he’s perfectly safe to be around

No. That makes him sound even more unsafe to be around, since he can't control the horny as soon as he sees her. That's not reassuring. I know women and men have very differing views on this, but knowing a guy that you are barely acquainted with is using you as a porn fantasy when he's jerking off is not flattering and is concerning, if it seems like he may not be able to maintain any boundaries at all. He's already blown through a few, what is to stop him hitting on you, harassing you if you turn him down, or even turning nasty?

He's already blown through a few, what is to stop him hitting on you, harassing you if you turn him down, or even turning nasty?

What's to stop him?

Err, the other social barriers?

Just because he steamrolled one doesn't reduce the resistance of the others to zero.

But it does tilt the balance in the direction of "the other barriers have been weakened".

I think this does reveal a genuine problem that the EA or Bay Areans need to deal with: the social attitudes of San Franciscan "flowers in your hair" liberality about sex and drugs and everything except meat-eating and being a square who harshes others' mellows, versus outsiders treating EA as a professional NGO do-gooding organisation. We're seeing these clash badly with damage on both sides.