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They are rare but they're quite obvious when you come across them and get them talking. If you find a woman who bitches about useless co-workers in a male-coded way- this is true for both female-dominant and male-dominant positions- you've likely found who you're looking for. Bonus points if they're wearing a firearm at the time. I know a few people that qualify, but I also live in the red part of a blue "state" and have red hobbies, so y'know. It's trickier to cultivate this kind of personality these days because the days of meteoric rise to power by manipulating reality are in the past but the seeds are there if you look hard enough. And for reproductive purposes that is probably enough.
Finding one that's not taken, and actively looking at the same time, and interested in you... well, that's a lot more difficult (and I think I already missed out on one).
It's also shit like this that makes me consider I'm "gay" specifically because I think this is exactly right about what gender fundamentally is (actually, thinking harder about it, I seem to be related to a higher-than-normal proportion of man[lier-than-normal]-women so that probably has a non-trivial effect on my sexuality; guess that explains my preference for androgyny over sex and a level of concern over perceived sexual identity that's a lot lower than normal to the point I have to purposefully emulate it).
The woke are more correct than the mainstream in that sex and gender are indeed different things, and they're correct in that they're bestowed by reality (for sex) and the community (for gender), but becoming an ugly eunuch and forcing acknowledgement of being the opposite gender at gunpoint do not a real transition make.
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