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PaperclipPerfector  4d ago (text post)   2198 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for June 21, 2026

Do you have a dumb question that you're kind of embarrassed to ask in the main thread? Is there something you're just not sure about?

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If he goes out with other people or even solo...

I certainly I'm a massive loser. I hang out here, asking loser questions.

What is a loser, anyways? I define a loser as a male of low status who engages in low status activities. You have a wife and children, clearly you did something right at some point in time, assuming you sired the children. Many men aspire for a family and are not so fortunate as you.

I believe asking questions and seeking advice shows self-awareness, a willingness to be criticized by others, and a desire for self-improvement. These are not qualities of a loser.

I'm taking the piss a bit. I was definitely a loser up until Sr. year of highschooler. The guys that were bullying me got kicked out - so that was helpful - and I decided I was going to start with working on eye contact which I couldn't even maintain with guys. That's where I push back on the effort aspect, it took constant concerted effort, deep introspection, on my part not to be a loser.

I think about it through a lens that Scott presents with fashion and cellular automata, and I often consider myself to be second tier in many areas. It put's me in the place of being able to conceptualize greatness and realizing just how far away it is.

I have some pretty top tier friends and acquaintances in athletics and intelligence.

Much more limitedly I have rolled with some effortlessly cool guys. Groups form around them from the ether, seeing that look in a women's eye when it clicks that she wants him. They're the people I feel the most distance from.

Even more being a dad, if an easy interesting opportunity presents itself, I think one should take it. Set an example for the kids.

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