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PaperclipPerfector  3d ago (text post)   2141 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for June 21, 2026

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This is a dumb "question" I'm just flabbergasted in a low key situation. Going to Mexico for my wife's friend's wedding. Taking my small kids, gonna be something...

Happens to be over Mexico's first World Cup nock out match. I don't like soccer it's for the poor's but this is falls under "few in a life time opportunities" in my mind. The one guy I kind of know on the trip turned me down on going out to watch the game because he hates crowds and sports. I've always struggled not to judge this guy as a loser (sulks around and whines a lot), this really doesn't help. Literally I don't think any other person I know would turn down an invite like this. Am I being too harsh?

Under the circumstances you describe, no chance I'm going. Soccer sucks and going with a mild acquaintance isn't going to make it better. I will have plenty more opportunities in my lifetime to attend events I don't care about, so this one being "a few in a lifetime" one carries zero weight.

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