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Promiscuity, when practiced by men both able and willing to engage in it, manifests as the running of soft harems and spinning plates. When practiced by women both able and willing to engage in it, it manifests as serial monogamy or branch-swinging. In other words, the average woman is sexually only interested in one man at a time – this is the one important difference between the sexes. When the woman in question has a sexual interest, and at the same time also appears to be a romantic or long-term relationship with another man, but the sex they are having is rare and basically manifests as pity/negotiated sex, then she is basically keeping this man around as a loser cuck, a convenient servant and an emotional sponge / garbage bin who dutifully performs all sorts of unpleasant tasks for her (he does the maintenance in her apartment, changes the faulty AC unit, mows the lawn etc). He is not a sexual interest and is sexually invisible to her.
On an related note, when you talk in person to female college students and your bros who have girlfriends, I suggest you take anything they say on this matter with a grain of salt, because they have all the incentive in the world to tell you a self-serving narrative that makes them appear good.
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