The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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Congratulations and blessings upon you and your family!
Don't sweat the doubt. It happens to the best of us. "Oh God, what if I'm wrong" is a natural thought to have at some point in that kind of stressful event. It's a biological sanity check - is your confidence strong enough to override this rush of panic hormones?
Years ago, I was out being an adult. My mother had my kids. She called me in a panic, claiming my daughter had a fever of 107 and I needed to come get her right away for an ER visit. But she put the girl on the phone. And she sounded somewhat sick, but reasonably coherent for a five year old. Hardly life-threatening, brain-damaging EMERGENCY RESPONSE CATATONIA I would expect for a 107.
But I dutifully rushed home and then rushed her to the ER, because oh my God, what if?
Her actual fever, as determined by the ER staff, was 102.
My mother is a nurse.
But maybe one day my reasoned opinion will be wrong. Most situations you'll face will be much less consequential than the C-section choice. An extra trip to a specialist isn't that much of an inconvenience.
More generally, enjoy the roughhousing. Playfighting with my son when he was little was one of the greatest joys of my life. Your boy will probably be into it sooner than you think. Buy bokken. Teach him to Flynn.
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