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PaperclipPerfector  6d ago (text post)   2606 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for July 12, 2026

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I already do most of that. I don't know what you mean by 60 minutes of conversation, I typically get (scant) replies the next day.
None of the above stops them from flaking, though.
Mentioning not having sex with them sounds like it'd get them all pissy at my assumption of their sluttiness, something something toxicity, something something entitlement.

I already do most of that.

That explains a lot. With the obvious exception of this sentence, you should probably stop taking advice from strangers on the internet. If you follow a set of rules to attract women, the women you attract will be the ones who play by those rules.

If you are getting scant replies cut bait. Interest should start high on their part. If they are not communicating freely that an indicator of non interest. Take the indication and move on.

The sex part is about playfully and aggressively flirting so if you have them warmed up and they complain about entitlement they failed your test and unmatch. Be selective.

But look out for mild pushback that is designed to be overcome. Tell them you aren't saying they are easy, just you know you are hard to resist. Be playfully arrogant.

I bet you'll get fewer calls of entitlement than you imagine if you have properly escalated aggressive flirtation.

Remember shit yests are just tests of compatibility and you should have your own bars for women to overcome. If they do not, politely turn them down.

You are in control.

I think all this depends on size of the metro area/prevailing cultural conditions. Some places are just not gonna have enough people to sustain a solid experience.

Yeah, i was about an hour from a large city and I did have to extend my range to include the city.

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