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Small-Scale Question Sunday for July 12, 2026

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Another time, a woman who laughs at all your jokes, kisses you, and agrees to a second date gets described as "plain-looking but not fat", not getting your jokes, leaving no impression, and "being bored out of [your] skull." You realize this is kind of a jerky way to describe a woman you went on a date with, don't you? You didn't even explain how the second date, the one where everything was closed, ended! You pivot in your retelling immediately to your ex, almost as though this woman, who genuinely did more in your telling than 90%+ of women to show interest and treat you with respect, never even deserved the closure of being described fully in the time she chose to spend with you.

We went to live music at a bar, I put my arms around her for a while. She kinda stood there passively. The date ended with her getting on her train and never speaking to me again, and me $75 poorer.

You're advising me to penpal more. This seems like bad advice.

We went to live music at a bar

That just seems like a bad idea for a second date in general. You're still trying to get to know the person; the last thing you want is an event where you stand next to each other and have to scream to be heard, if you're even supposed to be talking at all during these things.

This was after I realized she wasn't much for talking. It's called a date with a boring person.

Then why did you ask for another date? I can understand not having many options and wanting to give someone a second chance, but it seems like you were setting yourself up for failure by intentionally sandbagging. If you don't want to talk go miniature golfing or do something else where pauses in conversation aren't uncomfortable.

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