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Wellness Wednesday for July 15, 2026

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

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  • Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.

  • Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).

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it's the strongest ammunition there is when it comes to making other doctors take you seriously and in convincing them to do the right thing

Maybe it's different for people who can build a relationship with a specific doctor that follows them, but here where you get whoever you're lucky enough to see, the second a non-doctor suggests they have a suspicion as to what they actually have, the doctors will update heavily against the probability of it being that and will do everything they can to dismiss it being what was suggested, as if their now tainted diagnosis should be your punishment for daring to think about anything medical as a stupid plebian. I mean, I know a lot of people otherwise would waste ressources because of Cyberchondria, but not everyone outside of the medical profession is a drooling moron either. And not everyone inside of it hasn't devolved over time into one since medical school.

You are talking to a doctor who has, at least on LessWrong, written a guide that might as well be called:

"Here's how you, a competent non-medical professional who knows how to use Google and ChatGPT, can maximize the value from the medical system in a manner that won't shoot your dick off."

https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/ypnYfPmn6FqAyxCpJ?commentId=PBQGQ3buve228rNXu

You are preaching to the choir. A reasonably well behaved and sympathetic choir.

At the same time, I have explained at length why the behavior of other doctors is understandable, if not laudable. You and other UMC professionals who do their own research are not representative of the super-majority of patients a typical doctor sees in clinics. There are a lot of idiots out there. Or simply average people who watch the wrong influencers on TikTok.

I am genuinely sorry to hear about your negative experiences with other doctors, either personally or second-hand. I would not be so bold as to call myself the best clinician around, but I try and make up for that with good bedside manner, patience and an open mind.

Doctors are not a homogeneous population, unfortunately there are those who react poorly to perceived challenge. I can't bring myself to hate them, I have felt my patience running short when someone with uncontrolled diabetes shows up with their toes on the verge of falling off and reveals that they refused to take medication as prescribed and decided to use a combination of old Google, influencers and other questionable sources to opt for homeopathy. This is has happened more than once, though I didn't keep the toes. Fortunately, even free ChatGPT is a clear improvement in terms of quality of information and presentation to laymen. I would be genuinely surprised if it defended homeopathy without very significant nudging.

I would be grateful if I wasn't asked to answer for the sins of a profession I am associated with. That is quite possibly not your intent, but it happens a lot. All I can do is be better myself, and try to help people navigate the system.