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This is what people say. Maybe even some believe but reality intervenes. For one: liberals have a whole bunch of patronizing behaviors and attitudes towards minorities that minorities might notice even if they had the same score as Asians.
For another: reality just is what it is. It doesn't matter what liberals believe just like it doesn't matter if your mother thinks you're a catch. Reality has a say. The entire Amy Wax debacle came around again because someone gained access to data that showed that it's actually plausible that blacks were massively underrepresented at the top of the class. Nobody noticed this?
One excerpt from a selective school where, despite their efforts to equalize things differences pop up. What's notable here is not just the objective facts (lack of blacks relative to Asians) even the liberal explanation for why blacks underperform admits that there's a sense of defensiveness from visibly not doing as well.
Praise and compassion based on false statements isn't satisfying. Affirmative action was supposed to create a class of educated, confident minorities that would then not need affirmative action. That's clearly not what happened. As a result the fundamental insecurity never goes away. People like Michelle Obama get to go to amazing universities today yet still have some ambivalence about the experience. Why?
Unlimited praise is just teaching narcissism because it heightens the reaction when people get a disconfirming view.
The most powerful countries in the world threw their soft power behind increasing the self-esteem of transpeople and the neuroticism is still constant. In fact, it's worse for having ever encouraged them.
The pop music keeps getting more and more bombastic and allegedly confident, the memes of black women being everything from the most educated to the saviors of democracy are more present every day yet no one is happy and the language is as hysterical as ever. It's never enough.
Okay. What happens when it comes time to actually play piano? Are you following the Jason Arday situation?
People are projecting how they'd feel if they have the same skillset. But how would you feel as it slowly dawns on you that you were a teacher's charity case and the other kids are right as you try and fail to play or write any good music?
Kids are short-sighted, I'm sure they wish they were treated better sometimes. As a child I raged at how much of a light hand teachers took with a few charity cases: one very meek girl who cried whenever asked anything and a girl born with an unfortunate deformity, who nonetheless liked to rib people.
Once, I gave it back to her and I was instantly punished. At the time it felt bad but really, she was the one being robbed the ability to have authentic relationships, to be an equal. The teacher tore away even the illusion that she wasn't different.
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