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Is she picky otherwise? I've wondered about this preference and how it relates to a desire for order versus a meme picked up. Because the meme is out there, it is not uncommon.
Also, come on. Gumbo is clearly one ingredient with rice as the other. Be reasonable!
My wife is German and had the same preference when she was young, she still sort of has the preference, but can get over it mostly.
And yes my daughter is very picky otherwise. Mostly she judges with her eyes a lot, but if we can convince her to try a thing there is more chance of her liking it. Hilariously got her to try my medium rare steak at a restaurant one time, and now she loves steak. Anything vaguely "spicy" is a hard no. I'm not like a huge spice freak. Jalepenos are generally spicy but not too spicy to me. But she considers things spicy that I can't taste any spiciness in. Any hint of pepper (as in salt and pepper) is too spicy.
If it was up to her I'm sure she'd be happy to eat the same thing day in and day out. I've made her a PB&J for lunch at camp every day this summer, no sign of her getting sick of it. She'd happily eat pasta (with butter), chicken nuggets (with ketchup), and (cooked) broccoli every day for dinner. Or at least she did it for a week before I gave up the experiment and thought I should maybe feed her different things for her own health.
One thing to keep in mind is that kids are typically much more sensitive to food than adults are, due to a combination of more taste buds, thinner and more delicate membranes, and lack of desensitization from exposure. Spiciness in particular is quite literally a measure of how much of a chemical irritant a food is and while tolerance can be trained, children raised in milder food cultures usually don't get enough exposure to develop a tolerance for quite some time.
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