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Oh no, WhiningCoil. That is nasty judgementalism when people are only being compassionate and accepting!
I've had decades of listening to the pushback and insults around the Catholic Church's opposition to abortion, so I am both inured to the tactics and grimly validated in what we stick-in-the-muds were warning all along. You start loosening the bolts. You pull down the fence. You cut down those trees in the way. It's all done in the name of compassion, and nobody thinks it will affect anyone except the (carefully chosen and cherry-picked) few hard cases you selected to get the laws changed and societal acceptance.
Divorce is a tragedy and marriage should be for life, but do you want to keep women stuck in abusive marriages? It will never affect marriage itself! Abortion will only be for the few cases where delivering the pregnancy would kill the mother. Birth control will only be used by responsible married couples to delay and space out their families. Gay marriage will have no effect on you. Trans people are only a tiny percentage of the population, they never did anything to you. So giving in on this one thing will not do anything except help the few desperate cases.
It won't lead to normalisation and acceptance. It won't be the first step towards the next hard case that needs compassionate understanding. Abortion won't become "it's not a baby, it's only a clump of cells" or "it's a baby if you want it, it's not a baby if you don't want it". It won't have the knock-on effect of devaluing all life. Euthanasia is compassion for the terminally ill who want to avoid gasping out their last few weeks in horrible pain. It will never be something where gradually lowering the age limits will be proposed. Granting limited rights to this minority will never be the first stepping-stone to increasing demands. Granting expanded rights will never be used as a playbook for a different minority.
There is no such thing as the slippery slope and only bigots and haters pretend there is. Nothing will change once we loosen this bolt, the machine will continue to function exactly as it always has. See, everything is fine after that bolt was loosened, that means we can remove it altogether! See, the machine is still running even with that bolt gone, let's loosen a few more bolts. Okay, now the machine is making funny noises, but that only means we haven't loosened enough bolts.
The people making these arguments and saying there's no such thing as a slippery slope don't seem to consider at all what incentives are or how people respond to them.
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