The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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I don't really believe in suffering. It exists but (except in very extreme circumstances) is heavily outweighed by the pleasure of life.
Consider: the very worst form of suffering IMO is to lose something--whether a loved one, or a great opportunity, or an ability (such as the ability to walk). But all of those things are positives! The absence of a positive may feel extremely negative for a while but at worst, from the correct standpoint, it's just neutral.
And speaking as someone who has experienced a lot of physical pain, it's nothing compared to the pain of losing something.
In the end you have some degree of control over your "baseline", below which you are unhappy and above which you are happy. I guess this could be summed up to "lower your expectations" but it's more than that. You really can choose to appreciate the little things and care about the big things less.
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