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Grammar tip, «its» is the possessive of it, like his to he or your to you. «It's» means «it is».
That aside, I would say I broadly agree with your points.
Definitely. With one caveat. The assortative mating coefficients of religiosity and left/right are high, but the coefficient for big 5 neuroticisim is low with the rest of big 5. Intelligence, however, is very high. So, instead of spiritual/rational, it should be dumb/smart. Smart people are effectively the definition of rational anyway. I agree with the subtext here that assortative mating is more important than game or women as monolith, and understanding its importance undermines most gender discourse.
This I also agree with. The way to win in the gender wars is marriage to a partner that is well assorted on the traits I mentioned. A lot of male complaints are just men trying to figure out why having a Tinder harem is not working when they work in a warehouse. It's not wrong for them to point out that women are hypergamous. Any who are willing to join a Tinder harem are basically the worst in this regard. Only a subset of women are willing to do this and they effectively see it as a way to break out of their biological class.
Dating apps don't work. In large part because they attract bad women. One study found iirc that the median Tinder girl was almost -1 SD on the decent wife scale. Specifically they have more tattoos, higher body counts, lower SES and intelligence and on top of that looks than the general population. Looking for a wife on Tinder is like looking for a genius in the Baltimore hood. The best solution to this problem for internet natives is to be willing to marry someone who is far away, and to commandeer non-dating social media apps for dating purposes. You date online and you hopefully work remote and can move to her or else you restrict your search to someone who will move in with you.
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