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Normies as in the kinds of people who write comments on Reddit, or normies as in people you run into in your day to day life?
The first group would consider it harrassment unless the other person is into it, basically no matter what you write. The second group has somewhat more tolerance for trying as long as you take no for an answer and aren't too crude.
Why are you assuming the two groups are radically different?
Because they are. Most people don't bother commenting, for one. Secondly, Reddit is to my knowledge mostly millennial leftists. The younger generations use Tik Tok and other short form content more.
Finally, reddit skews heavily left and feminist. In the real world, people are much more split politically and sort themselves into communities based on who they get along with. So a lot of normal people will be more okay with romantic advances than your average internet leftist.
True - (regular) Reddit commenters are a tiny minority. But that doesn't necessarily mean their views are fringe. We can merely infer that they feel unusually strongly about those views and thus feel compelled to keep declaring them. It's entirely conceivable that huge numbers of average people agree with them while not feeling any particular inclination to howl this into the virtual wind. And this probably applies to feminist beliefs in particular. I'm afraid a single man lurking around a female-coded hobby group and basically infiltrating it in order to find women to approach online will not be looked upon positively among normies at all if exposed, even if none of those normies ever commented on Reddit.
Any man "lurking around" and basically infiltrating any social setting in order to find women to approach will not be looked at positively. You are supposed to fit in and want to be there, or at the very least act like it. Even in nightclubs, people act like it is the greatest thing ever and they love being there. But then they mysteriously stop coming when they find a girlfriend.
Phrase it differently. A man joins a female hobby group about something he is genuinely interested in, and through it meets a woman who matches his freak and they end up falling for each other. I think even Redditors would be fine with this.
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