The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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I can definitely sweeten it up and say something fancy like 'I'm a directional equities trader with some angel investing on the side' and it is all true. They don't have to know I do it from 'momma's basement' and my angel investments amounts to 2 $25k checks into 2 failing companies. It won't make me feel any more important than what I am though, I think I'll still be feeling like a liar ha.
No, don’t sweeten it up…It’s not a job interview.
How do these conversations actually go for you? The ones making you feel unimportant?
What’s home life like? Are you involved in your parents’ lives? Do you share meals? Are you friendly with any of their friends? Or they with yours?
They don't go terrible, most people have enough social know-how or manners to not instantly do a 180 on you right away, but I can usually tell who's judging and who doesn't care after some time.
There's some issues unrelated to me, but I don't know how they are relevant to my situation. Despite living with my parents, the house is big enough for us to live separate lives if we want to. I currently follow a pretty strict routine, so we don't tend to eat meals together but I obviously still interact with them daily. I know their friends, but our social lives are pretty separate.
It's relevant because if you're not actually enriched by your proximity to your parents, then you should move out. Multiple users have told you this, and it's good advice.
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