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Were they wrong?
With the rise of gay identifying it’s obvious people can be gayed. And then there are lavender marriages which produced children meaning most men can still get off to women. And honestly I think most gays are happier in lavender marriages where they get all the benefits of being a father and their children get a mother (plus not having to do childcare etc).
The rise in LGB self-identification is driven women who only date men identifying as bisexual. They haven't been gayed, they are claiming an oppressed identity for clout. The much smaller risk in gay male self-ID is entirely consistent with less closeting over time.
Even the very strict gay/lesbian amount is double in Gen X than the Silent Generation. There is a lot more going on than people listing themselves Bi. The Bi thing explains only the last 10 years surge.
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I'm not interested in doing "social contagion" vs. "inherent predisposition towards behavior previously repressed by social sanction" round 237 with someone who throws out wild speculation like "honestly I think most gays are happier in lavender marriages" without supporting evidence.
Regardless of whether you like my views. My main question “Were they right”
Is 100% yes. And it’s supported by the data
Silent Generation 1.8% gay. Gen Z 23.1% gay. And a key point here is it’s socially beneficial to be gay now and this is current data not how silent generation polled when they were kids. Silent Generation didn’t start being gay when it got cool. 3.4% of US adults are gay or lesbian (so completely excludes the huge rise in bi) so the Silent generation at 1.8% is still way below.
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