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Culture War Roundup for the week of March 6, 2023

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From my own liberal perspective, nobody is owed a girlfriend, or relationship.

This is, from my perspective, an absolutely reversed framing of what is happening. Its like observing a young girl cutting herself and thinking, "well no adolescent is entitled to have classmates with intact wrists." Yes, it is damaging to people around a cutting girl to see her in a damaged state, similarly, it is incidentally bad for men the way modern women arrange their sexual affairs. But, it is still more damaging to the women themselves. This is shown in basically every statistic available. Happiness in women has plummeted since the 1960s. They have far fewer children than they want. And, lo and behold, all these trends are much much smaller in what we'd think of as "tradwife" communities. Mormons, devout Catholics, etc. All their women are far happier.

So yes, if you frame it as men not getting a thing, that can make the problem appear to be one of losers complaining about losing, but if you think about it at the next level, it is much more about self sabotage because of hyper-stimuli.

Ok. Even through a lens of self-sabotage I think people are almost never justified in coercing someone else to do something because, in the judgment of the individual doing the coercing, it would be in the coerced individuals best interest.

Well, there is currently a large propaganda campaign encouraging the self-sabotage. We should step 1 shut that off. And step 2 do the opposite. Coercion would be a last resort.

Can you clarify how you intend to "shut that off" and "do the opposite" in a way that doesn't entail coercion?

Well first we should eliminate all subsidies, state and federal, for the academic fields such as gender studies, etc. We should also stop allowing unfettered feminism to pervade K-12 public schools with implementation of proper curricula and policing of rebellious teachers who use their classrooms for leftist indoctrination. Indeed, if we need to (and we probably do not), the curricula enacted in k-12 may need to be explicitly traditional and espouse the virtues of motherhood and demonize the thought of women in law firms and other such institutions. As stay at home motherhood currently is.