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smh my head when hoeflation has progressed enough such that a girl who merely feels bad about taking Plan B after getting rawdogged a few times too many could very well be considered a TradCath relic.
Reminds me of how abortion has been decriminalized/legalized in several LatAm countries despite their supposed Catholicism. Hoeflation > Religion. Islam in Arab countries perhaps remains the exception.
Being a sinner’s exactly why you need Jesus in the first place.
Turkish girls are known for the anal sex loophole. A lot of them hoe it out from the ass so they keep their hymen intact for their husband on the wedding day. Yeah. I was surprised when I was told that too. It’s apparently some kind of standard knowledge leaked from the “girl code.”
In my girl’s case, we’d had sex before a long time ago when she was in her 20’s, and she’d had a couple relations with others before that, so she knows she can’t hold me to a higher price and demand commitment if she’s given it away at a lesser cost to worse people. That’s one reason (among several) why I say she’s an intelligent girl. Because she’s very aware of how people will read her behavior and she’s incredibly perceptive. If I look to a model of pure moral consistency from a woman, I’ll never find it for the rest of my life and neither will most men. Can’t hold someone to a standard I won’t hold myself to. And she isn’t a hoe. She’s only had two serious relationships in her life and has never had sex outside of it (except with me and that was after she’d broke up).
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