The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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I don’t know if this counts as wellness. I’m currently at a good company with a bad boss, and the company is actively working with the boss to be better, learn, and change. I doubt he will change, personally. So do I hang around and hope he changes or leaves, or do I hit the market and take a risk? I work in IT, and I’ve been told that IT is hit or miss, with a lot of bad bosses (generally people who are technical experts but have zero people skills) out there, as well as bad companies. Where I am now, at least the company leadership and culture constrains his worst attitudes and actions.
I've known several people in the same situation, and if it's a good company, it's worth sticking around. If the company were oblivious to his problems or were backing him, it would be a different story, but if they're actively working with him to change, then he's already on thin ice. If he doesn't change, he'll be gone soon enough. If it goes on long enough I wouldn't rule out complaining to management. I used to work at a firm where one of the partners in charge of our division was a notorious bitch. I never had a problem with her, but people who worked with her directly often complained about how she would reserve certain "high level" tasks for herself, not do them, and then blame her team for the problems that arose. Several of the people under her complained to the partner who was co-managing the division with her, and several of them left. The result was that they pulled her supervisory duties and everyone left on the team got raises. A few years later she got forced out and went to another firm, but the last I checked she is no longer there either, and the state bar website shows that she's self-employed at an address that's a private residence. She also bought a decent-sized house with her husband while I was working with her and the house that comes up is a townhome, so she's probably divorced too.
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