The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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I have no great words of wisdom or advice. What I will say is:
(1) Yes, you have lost time you will never get back. It's okay to regret that. But regret is the most useless emotion. It doesn't change anything. And every day, you are losing more time. So-
(2) You say you keep starting and failing. You start, persist for a while, hit a bump, and quit. It sounds a lot like addiction. It's harsh to tell people whose problem is will, "Just have more willpower." But finding the will is really the only solution. Eventually the gears catch and you move, or you don't. A support system is really useful and to that end, I understand you've had problems building friendships and a social support network, but you should explore ways to connect, find people with shared interests (hopefully not online crazy people like us who will take you down a rabbit hole). I don't say that like you can just will a friend group into existence, but you don't live in the wilderness (I assume)... there are people. Start meeting some.
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