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Culture War Roundup for the week of March 13, 2023

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I was created in a lab.

My parents seriously don't have sex, but they got other problems so that confounds it. But parents not having sex or there being absolutely no signs of it ever happening seems to be common if not universal belief around me, at least some of that should points to a trend I suppose. Very speculative but no one is really out there counting sex frequency by nationality so sentiments on the ground serves as the closest proxy I can get.

My parents managed to have four kids even though circumstances would appear to have made it very difficult for them to get the opportunities to do so, for various reasons 😁 So I do take "I don't see any signs of my parents sleeping together" with a grain of salt; it depends how old the parents are, how old the kids, etc. As you get older there will be a reduction in libido and a feeling that "yeah I could get wild in bed or I could read my book then have a good night's sleep" and people choosing the book and sleep.

no one is really out there counting sex frequency by nationality

Yes they are. https://www.statista.com/statistics/245194/most-sexually-active-countries-worldwide/

I don't know the veracity of this data but it came up on the first page of google.

120+ times a year?? Yeah, I strongly doubt the veracity that people are out there having sex at a rate of roughly once every 3 days, that too people in relationships where I suppose a majority of the sex would come from.

Your parents are either outliers or are keeping it quiet. Hat tip. Most parents keep it quiet.

Well sure, if I was really trying to draw conclusions I’d look for multiple sources of hard to fake data(marketing data from condom companies and percentage of arrests for prostitution, for example) and try to make it robust enough that the confounders cancel out. But equally clearly there is (probably quite low quality) data out there on sex frequency by nationality.