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I agree with others here that she's describing the end of the euphoric/limerence phase of the relationship.
But I also see it as her coming to the realisation that her life happiness is not completely reliant on her partner. I see this as a good thing. Many immature women put the responsibility for their happiness on their partner (external locus of control) and this creates stress in the relationship. Shifting that responsibility to herself creates less pressure on the relationship. This may also involve less dependence on her partner and less emotional need to be close to the partner as her sole source of her happiness. In layman's terms she would be less clingy, which I can see in certain circumstances would be a downside depending on your definition of closeness in a relationship.
I'm not really reading anything bad to what she is saying. I think she's growing her maturity and this is a good thing for a stable long term relationship.
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