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Does anyone else lack schadenfreude?

Schadenfreude - pleasure derived by someone from another person's misfortune

I guess the first time noticing this about myself is me being unable to get through "fail compilation" videos on YouTube leading me to find win compilations. Seeing other people get hurt or embarrassed rarely brings me joy.

Even when I think they "deserve" it.

Lets say a thief steals some merchandise from a store and on the way out they knock an innocent bystander over and they sprain their ankle. Imagine now 2 weeks later that thief gets caught by police while committing another theft because while they were attempting the robbery they sprained their ankle allowing the police to scoop them up. A nice little just so story about karmic revenge or whatever.

I can imagine all the comments underneath that short news story, the obvious jokes and and laughing emojis driven by the thief's comeuppance. While I am glad the thief lost in the end, it does not put a smile on my face or entice me to write a comment expressing my glee at someone's downfall.

Nope, can't experience it either. I get entertained to some extent when people trip over their own misdoings/incompetence but it doesn't bring me gloating joy, it's more of.. ahh the world works in funny ways, at least it's not me.

I have a tremendously hard time with "copes" as well. Which gets branded as "ungrateful" by those who are not of the same wavelength but I'd just say I'm hyper-competitive and If I'm not winning, I'm losing. I can't just rationalize away not winning, at anything, even if I know rationally I am far outclassed have no chance in hell and the other person deserves to win, it still gets to me.

The reason I said all that is I think some of the satisfaction of personal victory can be outsourced to others losing.

I have a tremendously hard time with "copes" as well. Which gets branded as "ungrateful" by those who are not of the same wavelength but I'd just say I'm hyper-competitive and If I'm not winning, I'm losing. I can't just rationalize away not winning, at anything, even if I know rationally I am far outclassed have no chance in hell and the other person deserves to win, it still gets to me.

I was this way with sports and games, but competitive running cured me of it. There's something about the pure linearity of just being plain out slower than the other guy that feels appropriately karmically just, even though I'd rather win.