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I could never train my dogs to not beg, and to be honest I can't bring myself to, they're just too fucking cute when they do it.
At least I've mostly conditioned them to sit expectantly till I'm done eating, because they know I'll save the bones for them.
Or rather, they retain enough of their wolf instincts to target softer prey, like my girlfriend or grandpa, who might melt and sneak them snacks off the dinner table.
At that point I'm scolding and training them more than the dogs haha.
You know, some people don't mind it. I let our dog jump on our couches and beds, and I have a number of blankets strewn around the house she has essentially claimed as her own. I train the begging out because I just don't like being hounded by an animal for food when I already feed her generously. I suppose dogs are a "get what you deserve" sort of deal, lol, and who am I to say your training style is wrong?
Nothing soothes my heart like a big warm dog lying by my feet while I'm relaxing in bed.
I really don't see why more people don't let them on beds and sofas, it doesn't really make all that much of a mess.
When it comes to begging, I don't like when they paw at me and I scold them when they do, but if it's just sitting quietly and looking at me with their big limpid eyes, I see no harm in if. The nudging with their cold hard nose is something I can do without when I'm eating haha.
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Have you tried a light pinch and a tss on them?
In India we don't have the consternation as you Westerners at the idea of giving them a moderately hard smack on the head if they're misbehaving. Well, I might, but I'm exceptionally softhearted when it comes my dogs and even then I can still do if they're being egregiously naughty. I don't think begging is bad enough to warrant it!
(I do think modern stigma around corporal punishment is overblown, be it for dogs or humans)
I was talking about the relatives.
I likely did so when I was a kid, but in this case they trained me out of it and not vice versa.
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