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I appreciate your tone.
On another reading, I think I understand your point: adult men unconsciously generate a massive demand for sex and sexual/sexualized content simply by existing, it's like a huge reservoir of potential energy that won't go away. Anyone of any gender who consciously tries to make a new hole in the dam that is storing that pent-up desire instead of shoring it up or at least leaving it alone knows that at least some women will be drawn to that new stream of male attention and that far from all of them will benefit from it.
But this draws a different response from me: what does shoring up the dam look like? If men do it, it will look like Saudi Arabia or Ancient Athens, with male guardians policing the sexuality of their charges (and yet Athens still had its prostitutes and I'm sure SA does as well). If women do it, it will be a radfem utopia (or dystopia?), with women actually forming a gender-wide class consciousness and punishing those among their ranks who try to benefit from their own sexuality. Or do you have a third answer to this question of your own?
I mean in the historical west modesty and sexuality norms were mostly policed by other women, even if men had legal responsibility, so I don't think there's as much daylight between the two options as you're representing.
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