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Small-Scale Question Sunday for August 13, 2023

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If you’re gawking (slyly), what happens after five drinks?

Part of what made the situation feel so scandalous to me was that so many of us were married or otherwise spoken for.

I'd probably go hang out with my male friends and commiserate about how it's both a blessing and a curse to be in such a situation. I also don't think there's anything wrong/socially inappropriate with remarking upon a woman's body if she's decided to wear minimal clothing. As long as it's done in a joking/non-creepy way. Something like, "GodDAMN Jill, have you been working out?!" This allows you to address the obvious: that there is a woman who your brainstem wants to have sex with, but your frontal cortex knows you cannot.

I'm going to find myself in this situation this weekend, so maybe I can report back my findings.

GodDAMN Jill, have you been working out?!"

That is creepy/gross to say unless you guys are very close friends, IME. Of course, my experience might not be the norm. You can compliment the clothing - say "Cool bikini" - but not her body.

I disagree. Just don’t say it in a creepy/gross way.