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The reason it's a bear trap is that there are very few people like OP above who is happy to come out and say they support abortion because it weeds out the underclass. Most of it is all bleeding-hearts about compassion and empathy and being nice morally superior people who love everyone unconditionally.
I'd bite that bullet. Once may be a terrible choice and an unexpected event. You're on your third abortion? If you haven't figured out How Babies Are Made by now, jail time. But of course, the howling about "no pity! no compassion! monster monster monster!" will drown out everything.
It is entirely possible to hold both views: that this is killing, and yet the mother too deserves compassion. But if you do that, then you're in the bear trap. Admit the mother should be treated kindly, it's "you don't believe it's murder". Say you believe it's murder, and "you want to force women to give birth just like broodstock".
If I can extend some amount of understanding and empathy to a murderer because of mental illness or terrible situation, then I can do that here as well. But you'll get no thanks for it. The pro-abortion side yammer on about "compromise", where "compromise" means "you give in to all our demands, we give you nothing in return". That's why I think the rape/incest/physical threat to the life of the mother exceptions are bad tactics, because it's treated as "well you've already given in on abortion for this reason, so you've lost the right to say it's killing because if you really thought it was killing you'd never give in on that; therefore you must give in on abortion for the other reasons we want it".
The trolley problem people suddenly get all "but you can't sacrifice the woman here!" when it's "sacrifice one to save many".
I can buy a position that is something like "Abortion is murder but we should consider mitigating circumstances when sentencing a woman for murdering her child," but I don't buy the position "Abortion is murder but we should only punish the doctor, not the woman having the abortion." Which is still the mainstream pro-life party line. I suspect some of them are just plain disingenuous (they actually do want to convict women for murder, they just know that's not something they can say right now), but others seem to have genuinely wrestled themselves into an ideological position where abortion is kinda sorta murder for rhetorical purposes but not really.
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