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Small-Scale Question Sunday for August 27, 2023

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Are gay men actually gay?

What portion of gay men are completely uninterested in women? If there was a highly attractive women who wanted to have sex, what portion of gay men would say no?

Maybe it is my autistic inability to see things from other's perspective but I have a sneaking suspicion that many gay men are gay because grindr is tinder on tutorial mode. I can understand if some of them feel attraction to men but honestly if they had the ability to easily attract high quality women would they really say no?

In my experience, properly gay men don't turn their head at a particularly large pair of tits. They don't proposition women when they get drunk. You don't catch them with straight porn tabs open. If they get crushes or romantic obsessions, they're with other men, not women. They're really just not interested in women. It's not impossible to imagine, women usually aren't that interested in women either.

There are some people who call themselves 'gay' who are attracted to both men and women, but mostly those call themselves bi.