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The leopards eating my face is about crazy people doing the same thing to you that you like them doing to someone else.
It's not about crazy people doing any crazy thing to you, because all crazy things aren't equal.
Unless the women came on to him with the sales pitch "I falsely accused my boyfriend of rape so I could dump him and be with you" or something similar, this isn't like leopards eating his face.
It's not being too fussy about who you sleep with, even if they are observably unstable, because you don't care and you only want to get your dick wet.
Then the time bomb goes off. And you are all "how could this happen?" Well, it happened because you couldn't keep it in your pants and took a risk, and now the risk has happened.
There is a large difference between something being a bad idea that carries risk, and those risks being a good thing that the rest of society should make worse. There may be cases where it's better to leave people to their fates, but only when the actual costs of doing so are high enough, like if putting up more safety fences or warning labels is too costly compared to the benefit. The obvious topical comparison would be that, if a woman gets raped because of choosing to keep questionable company or choosing to date an abusive man or walking down a dark alley, we still put the rapist in jail if feasible. We certainly don't help domestic abusers on the basis of "you took that risk when you chose to date a crazy person, so society will punish you on the abuser's behalf". Not even feminists creating policies that help female abusers who use accusations of abuse/rape/etc. as weapons generally do so on purpose, they are just biased enough to genuinely think that such accusations from women must be true.
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