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So what's stopping an individual woman from marrying a Brad?
I know women as a group don't do this because they are subject to.. a lack of agency, social pressure, retarded messaging, etc.
THem not being able to be SAHMs is more of an economic problem than a sexual one.
My point is yes women as a group have indeed lost something, but that's because they act as a group! Any individual woman can still "defect" and avoid the pitfalls. If anything I will wager it's easier than ever for a woman to get "what they really want a la 1950's" because competition among men is so much more that many will provide it at considerable cost, just to have some coochy.
That women are mostly lied to and becoming a Mormon or Orthodox Jew or whatever in your teens is highly unusual.
More to the point, let’s remember that unlike in the fifties, the median twenty something single woman is fat, doesn’t know home economics, and etc etc is just generally not someone a reasonable person would expect to make a good housewife, and the typical twenties or early thirties single man doesn’t exactly want a housewife(and may or may not be worse at filling the role expected to support one, but we’ll leave that aside). The reasoning for this is partly due to systemic societywide lies which hurt women as much as they hurt men.
These are not the only options to achieve that end. I'll make an effort post on what I think those options actually are.
Sure, but women don’t know about ‘pretending to need help with your math homework in the engineering commons’.
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