The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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When things go wrong in life, I’ve made a custom of distinguishing my experience from others by telling people, “I don’t have mistakes, I have catastrophes.”
Throughout my entire life, I have the worst luck and misfortune out of anyone that I’ve ever known. When things begin to break down, they always seem to happen in ‘just such a way’ as to inflict the maximum possible damage, or make the situation unrecoverable or come at an expense so great that any recovery would amount to a Pyrrhic victory, to any attempt to improve things.
A few months ago my girlfriend broke up with me over a situation she uncharitably misinterpreted, or was using as an excuse to exit the relationship. The following week, I lost out on a great and promising career opportunity. On August 1st my father killed himself. On September 11th, my sibling died of a drug overdose. On October 4th, a long-time friend died of a massive stroke. And today on October 19th, my trusty companion and cat, Esther, passed away after being found in the bathroom. And a dear family member is in the hospital with stage 4 cancer.
I can’t even count all the shit I’ve been through from the day I was born. I’ve been through so much abuse, bullying, homelessness, and I don’t even know how I deal with things day in and day out.
I must have the worst luck in the world. I don’t have mistakes, I have catastrophes. The only peace there is comes from knowing on a planet of 8 billion people, I can’t be the only one out there that’s been there.
I’m terribly sorry to hear everything you’ve been through and I hope very much your luck turns around.
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