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gog  6mo ago (text post)   1658 thread views

Advice for disagreeable people

I am disagreeable IRL. Like, everyone I get to know well eventually starts avoiding me. I can find lots of advice for how to deal with other disagreeable people, but not much for people who are themselves disagreeable. Surely some of you lot are the same. Have any of you overcome this? If so, how?

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Finally getting covid recently crystallized some of my thoughts on disagreeability. Small tasks feel like huge endeavors, what tasted good before now tastes weird, small shocks take forever to recover from, nausea is the new neutral, everyday has its own signature of shittiness, and I have absolutely no patience to humor or indulge anybody. I used to be able to volunteer and do the high energy positive wholesome thing when working with kids. Now you might as well ask me to do a triple back flip. It wasn't acute sickness that took away that ability though, it was more like an accumulation of chronic illness symptoms that never disappeared completely. I am in utter awe of spritely middle aged men, who bounce back like rubber balls, but if you don't have that golden retriever personality, contorting yourself into a poor imitation is just too tiring, man. I have my hands full just managing myself here.

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