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The guy with the 450-pound partner and the woman married to Smokestack our engineering hero aren't facing domestic violence in relationships. The ambulances can be and often are domestic violence, but they can come from plenty of other things as well. Like congestive heart failure from supermorbid obesity. Or good old-fashioned lung cancer from a two-pack-a-day cigarette habit and smoking pot like fucking Snoop Dogg.
Consider the sky high - 80 percent, by some metrics - abuse/victimization rate reported by autistic women. This is still well north of half even if you just look at autistic women with normal IQs.
None of these have anything to do with "being an unattractive person who wants to date". As I explicitly said in the comment you're replying to, literally the sentence after the one you quoted - you can be single your whole life, never even ask anyone out, and develop obesity-related congestive heart failure. Not everyone who is unattractive is obese, however. Likewise, lung cancer can affect anyone: attractive, unattractive, single, married. Most people don't smoke (including most unattractive people). Life expectancy being what it is, most people (whether attractive or not, in relationships or not) will go their whole lives without any major health problems before being hospitalised with heart disease or cancer in their late 70s. Most people will go their whole lives without ever seeing the inside of an ambulance.
So what you're really saying isn't so much 'the question facing unattractive people who want to date is this: "Where do you want the ambulances?"', but rather 'the question facing
unattractive people who want to datehuman beings is this: "Where do you want theambulanceshospitals?"' Congratulations on having finally noticed that everyone dies eventually - attractive, unattractive, married, single, suave, socially awkward, it doesn't matter. Kind of surprised that this realisation is coming as so much of a shock to a literal doctor in training, but whatever. Sorry to say that "everyone will die eventually" isn't as original an insight into the human condition as "every unattractive person who wants to date will eventually end up in an ambulance" - but the former statement has the benefit of not being complete and utter bollocks.Once again - show me evidence (actual evidence, not the two or three acquaintances of yours you've been fixated on for months) that every unattractive person who wants to date will eventually end up in an ambulance. At the minimum, show me evidence that unattractive people in relationships, or unattractive people who want to be in relationships, are more likely to be obese and/or heavy smokers than unattractive single people. Otherwise I have to say your worldview has literally nothing going for it.
"Metrics" which you're conveniently refusing to provide. Also, are you claiming that all autistic women are unattractive? I'll note that Daryl Hannah, for one, was widely considered a sex symbol for two decades.
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